The key question here is whether you can build a relationship in any meaningful sense on a bed of lies.
I would say just one lie but the fact is I had this one central lie, a sun, and then a swarm of little lies orbiting it – see what i did there, classic analogy.
I was off working on a non-existent app and pretending it was going well and explaining my absences with a series of smaller untruths, and then covering my tracks with smaller truths again. For example if you’re out at a coffee shop, drinking coffee and reading a book but you said you were in an office with a colleague you have to explain:
- why you cannot fall asleep
- why you managed to read a book so fast when you’d only started it two days ago
- why you don’t have any cash the next morning
- what you ate for dinner.